Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire!!!

In life we all have our pet peeves and things that we detest. One of the pet peeves I always seemed to struggle with is lying. It has always been an action that I detest but also understand why the use of the action. As a child we are taught the concept of a white lie, something you say to hide something else, but does not harm that person. But then there are those big lies that if a person found out the truth it would have a devastating impact.

I detest lying because I find it unfair that the power of choice has been eliminated. One of the many lines I remember my mother saying when I grew up is I am not mad about what you did, I am mad that you lied. I never understood the concept till my ex boyfriend in college lied to me about something. Though his action upset me I could understand it. The lie seemed to hurt more because it stripped away my ability to choose my feelings. He assumed how I would feel and conceptualized something to tell me that would numb my feelings.

Nonetheless, as I have grown in maturity I have come to realize that though a lie hurts you, it may be told because the person doesn't want to believe the truth themselves. This is extremely dangerous. The person develops a false reality and can fall into a situation that could harm them. Also there might be the issue of lack of self esteem and the ability to love ones self so you never even performed the action you had to lie about.

Nevertheless what hurts more about a lie is who it comes from. When a lie comes from someone you trust, it destroys what has been built. You loss focus on the person and focus on the ridiculous that seems to arise in front of you.

As I currently deal with an issue of lying, I am hurt, upset, enraged and bamboozled and mystified at the different events that have occurred. But one thing I have learned is that lying is like gangrene. Cut it off before it spreads, destroys and corrupts the rest of the body.