Bonding...

Sooo this weekend I "watched" my sister while my mother and father were away. For the record this is not one of the things I like to do and this weekend seemed to solidify that.

Now when my mother asked me to watch my 14yr old sister. I said yes. No worries I mean really she is a teen and it might be a lot of fun because we could bond. But ooh how I was wrong. (For the record I had a great weekend despite this rant I am about to go on).

My sister and I did not do any type of bonding other than going to the movies. When my mother called me Sunday to let me know that she was on her way home, I told her this was the last time I would do this. Now I wasn't expecting to have a great girlfriend slumber party or for my sister to tell me all her little secrets but I did feel like I was in a house alone. Every time I walked into a room with my sister she walked out. During the weekend the only time we really spoke was at the movies. I woke up Sunday morning ready to escape this quiet trap. Some would say she is a teen and it will get better, but honestly I am not sure the truth behind that statement. My mother says its just her personality.

The scary part about my mother's statement is that is who my sister is. Its her negative. She is antisocial. Not a great trait to have in a family that is all about family events and bonding. Now don't get me wrong, we all like time alone. I like solitude, however I know how to spend time and enjoy my family and friends.

After spending the weekend with her, it made me think about the type of future I want for myself. I have always lived with social people: My mother, roommates in college and post grad and even with my boo. Now don't get me wrong I did not always want to be around them or vice versa, however I knew I had someone I could shoot the breeze with. But there was never this strong desire to want to be completely alone the whole time. Now I might be over analyzing however it was a wake up call. I would hate to be with someone for the rest of my life and they never make any attempts to want to spend quality time with me. I need that bond time. I need to feel that mental stimulation.

I will say bonding is what I felt at the beginning and the end of my weekend. I spent time with my friends I went to a happy hour, karaoke for the first time and spent time watching movies and listening to the rain. But what was key about these times is that I learned things about the people I spent time with. I learned a little bit more about them and some things about me. All I can say is I hope my sister learns the importance of bonding