Honesty for That...

What if your man came home and said this.....

Your world just might shatter.....

But recently I have wondered if Jody's reality is every man's reality... Do you have that woman you love and have the girl(s) you fuck on the side.(Please note I do not mean to generalize...I know there are men who keep their penis to themselves and A+ for you!). However, I do wonder how many men are in committed relationships but actually still trying to get it in on the side?

**If you are the chick saying that is not my man, he is faithful, I know his every move..Please sit down... Your are not God so your not omnipresent, you know what he tells you.**

I have been blessed to have a hand full of uncles, brothers and great male friends and over the years I have to say I have seen and heard it all! Men are scandalous and the stories y'all tell are priceless. But after certain conversations all I could think is "that's some honesty for my ass." I left those conversations questioning commitment. All I could think was, "if they did this to them what would stop another man from doing it to me." I settled with the thought that maybe commitment is not real to a man until a man finds God or they take that vow before God(still some of y'all don't honor that).

Now I am not trying to bash men because I know females that do the same thing. However, my male friends or even my brothers tripped me out when they came to me and would say you know I love so and so but I fucked so and so last night. Wait a minute what do you mean????? I remember the first time I heard that scenario I couldn't conceptualize the idea. How do you love someone but give the goods to someone else???? When I asked why it happened, it honestly came down to the infamous 80/20 rule or my favorite response but she had a fat ass.

Part of me wonders if this is just natural for men. I remember in my evolutionary psych class we discussed that men cheat because they have to carry on their genes. As a result they look to procreate with as many women as possible. But this isn't a sobering fact because this makes you wonder can you trust your mate to ever be faithful.

Nevertheless, cheating is something that I have seen first hand. Combine that with the many stories that I had heard, I became harden to the idea of "commitment." In my last relationship I dated a party promoter and because of his career choice I "accepted" the fact that he might pull a Jody. I remember talking to a friend and saying "I know the girls are gonna throw themselves at him but at as long as he comes home I can't complain."

But honesty hit me like a brick at the end of our relationship. I started praying about the future of our relationship and asked God if this was not for me take it away. He went to MIA came back and asked for space. When it was all said and done I realized my heart would have never been able to deal with the "Jody confession." I mean really who wants to share what they love when there is only one.

I mean lets be real we are creatures made in God's likeness and hell if he is a jealous God what makes you think you won't be either. Nobody wants to share. As I pondered on this thought for a little, I also thought about the fact that seems to weight true Men get real before God.

I remember one of the ministers telling me before I went to college, "When you meet a man ask him who his father is, if he says God then that is the man you want to get to know." That was the truth... find a man who respects and honors God, you find a man who will respect and honor you.

So this is the stance I take... God won't give me a "Jody" because the love "Jody talks of is not the love that my father has for me. But there is no need to be concerned about a man being committed to me if I can't be committed to God.